I do not wear body conscious clothing all too often. I prefer full skirts with nipped in waists, because well… I like my waist, but am not really crazy about what is below it.
But since I joined the self-love revolution over at A is for Ampersand, I am putting it all out there and not picking myself apart while doing it.
More often than not, we are our worst critics, no? We see all the flaws that no one else even knows about. And you know what? If you do not tell them, they never will.
No one wants to hear you whine about your crooked nose, thunder thighs, big ass, flabby arms, cankles, or postpartum pooch from the baby you had six years ago. Sorry, they just don’t.
Even if you have these things – which are never as bad as we think they are – just zip it. They are what make you you. A world full of plastic barbies would be a very boring place now wouldn’t it?
So mum’s the word when it comes to your flaws. Instead focus on your positive attributes, learn how to highlight them and exude confidence. Even if you have to fake it.
When you portray yourself as a confident person, others see you as a confident person. It is just that simple.
Flaws? What flaws? That girl has got it going on.
Stand up straight, wear what you love, feel good in it, smile, make eye contact and rock on with your bad self. {Sometimes it helps to have your personal theme music playing in your head. Don’t laugh, you know you do it!} When the compliment comes, take it.
Women have an extremely hard time accepting a compliment. It’s true. Give us a compliment and we will quickly follow it with a “thanks, but… {insert I should have here}”.
What the hell is that all about? No buts. There’s no but in compliments! {screams Tom Hanks}
If you follow up a compliment with “thanks, but…” you have just ruined it. You started pointing out your flaws that no one knew about. Zip it. A simple “thank you” will suffice. It is just that simple.
Here, let’s practice.
I like your hair today.
What was your immediate reply?
Dinner was delicious.
How about that time?
Wow, you look great!
Now?
That’s a fantastic outfit!
Are you getting it yet?
See, it’s not that hard now is it?
SHE WORE WHAT?
VINTAGE hat | MODCLOTH/TULLE dress
| SHOPKO necklace | HUE tights | VINCE CAMUTO shoes
So go forth with confidence! And be sure to check out A is for Ampersand all month long for tips on how to stop hating your body and start loving yourself. Join the revolution.
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You look absolutely gorgeous! And those shoes!! *swoon*
Ashley x
Those shoes are freaking awesome!!!
Hey, I have that dress too! Very cute. And I love your choice of shoes – I’ve been wearing it with leggings and boots.
wooooooooweeeee!! YOU LOOK AMAZING!! Thank you so so much for the revolution shout out and thank you even more for rocking this dress like it’s your job. Everything you said is completely true. Nobody wants to hear it, and the last thing we all need is to be hard on ourselves when life is already hard enough. And c’mon…those SHOES!!! To die for.
You rocked those shoes! Gotta love red heels!
Bravo, lady!!!!
I was reminded of this yesterday when I tried on some skinny jeans (which may or may not *ahem* be leopard print… I must be getting wild in my old age. 
, and everyone else thought I looked good, while I just focused on what I didn’t like. But it’s so true: if you don’t bring it up and instead project an air of confidence about how you look, the majority of people don’t see it!
You look amazing, btw–I’m coveting those shoes!
Those shoes are so fierce! Thanks so much for linking up to Monday Mingle!
Smashing ensemble! And a lovely point about taking compliments gracefully. I have even been complimented on my ability to just say “thank you”!
REAL WOMEN SPORT CURVES.
love this post.
saw it on the modcloth ambassador fb page.
c-u around!
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I love this post – such wonderful advice! And you look amazing!!